Do you ever wish that you could go back in time, and pull the younger you aside. Tell the younger you, it’s going to be ok. I look back and think of all the time I wasted worrying and stressing out. Having a letter like this would have helped so much. But in light of that, the past is the past and can’t be changed or undone. It has led me to where I am today and very proud of that.  I wrote a letter to my “pre-baby Self”. It felt good to write everything down that I had worried about so much in the past. Knowing that I did make it through and I am a good mom and have accomplished so much. I encourage you to write a letter to your pre-baby self!

Baby bump!
Baby bump!

Dear you before babies, before sleepless nights, diapers and daily spit-up.

This is your future calling. You about to step into the crazy world of being a mom. Don’t be scared. Giving him a home in your belly will be the most joyful thing you will ever experience. The 6am hiccups, heartburn, swollen ankles and lower back aches..they are worth it! Eventually, over time you will forget all the pain; when you finally get to hold him for the first time. Don’t be scared that your mom lives on the other side of the country, or that you live away from all your family and friends. Drew makes up for it by being an amazing supportive spouse, taking you to every appointment and reassuring you on even the most stressful days. Acting like it’s no big deal when your screaming, sweating and pushing a 7lbs 13oz baby out of your wahoo, he truly is the best!

It will be scary to think that your only 21, not married, you don’t own a home or have much in the bank. But its ok… You will learn that the most important things in life are your family. That’s all your ever going to need, that and wine. You may think you know what love is right now, but you have no idea! The moment you look deep into the eyes of your baby Owen, that is the moment you will feel the tingle of love. There’s NOTHING in life that you will ever love more than this baby, and the connection between him and Drew. It will overpower everything. Your going to feel like you’ve outgrown the ‘old you’ and stepped into a ’new you’. Each stage, he will grow with you too. You’ll learn an incredible amount about yourself. Owen will help guide you and love you. He will challenge you on your weakest days and fill you with laughter.

Keisha and Ella
Keisha and Ella

Hold on to every precious moment because it’s true what they say, time goes by all too fast. One minute they’re newborns and the next they’re 7 years old and talking back. When you have another baby… that goes by even faster than you thought possible. Don’t let the little things worry you and don’t let others tell you you’re doing a bad job. Everyone has an opinion, some probably shouldn’t, but they do. Take it with a grain of salt and toss it aside. Do what’s best for you and your baby. Do your best to start a movement and end “Mom Shaming”. It’s the worst!

The word ‘Poop’ just sounds scary, but when it’s your baby, it’s really not that scary at all. It will soon become your everyday to look at, smear off or smell.  Oh yeah, and sleep, see you forever! Your sleep patterns will be off for the rest of your life. You’re going to be a mom. Try not to give Drew too much hassle when you see him peacefully asleep in dream land, wrapped up like a burrito. Starting a fight at 2am may seem like a good idea in the heat of the moment, but take it from me/you, it’s not! Morning payback is the best! Friends they’ll come and go. You’ll find out quickly who the true ones are. Don’t lose sleep over it, you need to sleep to take care of your baby. You now have more important things to worry about!
 Life has a sweet road ahead for you. Some spots are definitely not paved out so nicely, you will come across the odd pot hole and be sure of a few road blocks. But one thing I can tell you is that you will be alright! You have a family that loves you. You’ll be an amazing mom and life will take you exactly where you want it to. Take care and love your baby/babies. Yes you do go through the intense pain of childbirth a second time and you prove Drew wrong. He will not be a parent to enough boys to make a hockey team. Your blessed with a girl!
Sweet memories Ahead..
Sweet memories Ahead..

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